What Is An Emotion?

‘Emotion’ is a relatively recent term and there are languages that do not carry an equivalent. Historically, people spoke not of emotions but of passions. The passions encompass, or encompassed, not only the emotions, but also pleasure, pain, and desire. ‘Passion’, like ‘passivity’, derives from the Latin patere, ‘to suffer …

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The Highs and Lows Of Buying

Almost everybody owns or is involved in real estate in some way or the other. One of the unique things about this bubble is that real estate has been at the center of it. Look at Japan. Japan had this bubble burst in stocks, real estate, and the general economy …

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Reflective Listening

Reflective listening is simply repeating some words your clients use as you listen to them speak. Someone says, “I read your book last year and I liked it.” You respond, “You read my book?” perhaps with a slight nod, and continue listening. Or, a customer says, “I had a BMW …

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Whenever You Have the Chance

Every day I tell people that a big part of go-to-ism is going out of your way to find high-potential individuals at every level in all parts of the organization. And then you invest some of your own time and energy in building them up. The first most-common reaction I …

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The Past And The Present

The first stop in our journey to discovering our internal values will be those who raised us. The concept of family can have different meanings to everyone. For some of us, those who raised us are blood-related family. For others of us, those who raised us may include an adoptive …

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I Am Resilient

Why are couples and friends so concerned about affronting the other party? The answer may have to do with a disconnect between how sensitive we are versus how sensitive we think others are. In my research, we found that people believe that others are much more sensitive than they themselves …

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The Kind Of People You Work With

Although there is a risk of offending the other party, when you have the courage to tell hard truths, you establish credibility that just can’t be won any other way. You’re making it clear that you’re not just in it for yourself. You’re willing to risk …

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Understanding Your Rights and Protecting Your Work

In the wake of Hillary Clinton’s failed presidential run in 2016, a number of books were written about her campaign. One of them, Strong for a Moment Like This: The Daily Devotions of Hillary Rodham Clinton, was penned by Clinton’s longtime pastor, the Reverend Bill Shillady. The book …

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Setting Your Intention

When you begin a grief ritual with intentionality, you are explicitly affirming that you have desire and you have hope. You desire to move toward a certain outcome, and you have hope that you will. Hope is an expectation of a good that is yet to be.It is your …

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Early Development and Attachment

You may be surprised to learn how sensory processing problems affect the attachment relationship. Exploring and meeting a child’s sensory needs can greatly benefit the relational bond between child and caregiver. In fact, meeting sensory needs and meeting relational needs go hand in hand. Getting your organisation listed in …

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Should We Separate?

Separation is not the answer to our problems. Eventually we will have to return to the point where our relationship got stuck so that we can look at it consciously and transform our part in it. If separation seems the only escape route, then at least we should make use …

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Learning and Rewards

Let’s talk about building on interest and rewards, the idea of compound interest... but, since we’ve already gone the way of microeconomics with that great example from up above, the one about setting goals and doing the economic Macarena, we’re going to skip left, when we should …

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